Posts Tagged ‘relationships’

The body type portrayed in advertising as the ideal is possessed naturally by only 5% of American females. (source:

The media portrays views that women [and men] should look, dress, and talk a certain way in order to be accepted by the “general public.” What people fail to realize is that the way the media makes people look is only attained through dieting, surgery, and eating disorders; minus those 5% who naturally became such. Why is it then that so many aspire to be that way? It is not healthy. Dieting is not bad. Surgery is not bad. But once a person crosses the line of improving their health to obsessing over their looks.. a problem has begun.

Many people go through life unsatisfied with who they are and they make changes to fix that feeling. However, in most cases, people lose sight of their own personal goals and suddenly they are trying to please everyone else. So they change their hair, their style of clothing, lose weight (most times by developing an eating disorder), the crowd they hang with (while leaving “true friends” behind), and the list continues. Although the media will not change overnight, it has become the duty of parents, educators, role models to step in and affect change. Youth look up to those whom they wish to be like. If those idols have drug habits, eating disorders, or life altering changes that damage their reputation, it is accounted for. The old saying “even when you think no one’s looking, someone always is” is certainly in effect. It doesn’t matter if you are a rock star, public figure, parent, teacher, older sibling or whatever, someone is always watching you and learning from the things you do and the decisions you make.

It is very important to realize that you can’t force someone to “do the right thing.” The right thing for them may be completely different from what was right for you. However, there are things that are wrong across the board.. common sense. Developing drug/alcohol habits clearly doesn’t lead to a positive outcome. Eating disorders challenge people’s mental state and can ultimately take their lives. Crime also falls along that line. Setting a good example is really the push that anyone needs. Showing support whether you agree with their aspirations or not is also VERY important. If you’re a doctor, scientist, or lawyer and you have a child who wants to pursue theater, music or dance, don’t discourage them. That’s the fastest way to push them in the wrong direction. They might very well find someone else who is a great example and will support them but are willing to take a chance that they might get in with the wrong crowd?

If you’re someone who hasn’t had a good influence, you’re struggling with an eating disorder or drug/alcohol related addiction, you feel like you’ve  never been “good enough”… know that there are people out there with similar problems and people out there who will help you. But you have to want to do better FOR YOURSELF first. The media will always be there looking for the dirtiest story but it’s up to US to affect change.

Be a good influence. Support your loved ones. Do the “right thing.”

The inspiration for this piece came from watching this video by recording artist, Pink called “F**kin Perfect”. Check it out!

It’s 2011.. like it or not and there is no time for laziness!

Whatever you wanted to do in the past but continued to put it off ’til the next day and the next day became next week, then next month.. DO IT NOW!

Stop waiting for a handout. Don’t expect people to always be there for you.. sad truth.

Anything you want to accomplish will only happen if YOU put in the effort and dedication.

Doors may close in your face but it’s up to you to make the necessary adjustments and continue to move forward. Don’t let rejection keep you from making a change in your life.. keep you from achieving success and satisfaction.

Consistency is the key. Without it, I guarantee you will not make it as far as you really could.

Network. Travel. Hang with different crowds. If what you’ve been doing hasn’t worked yet maybe that’s a BIG HINT that you should be taking another route.

I challenge you to MAKE A CHANGE. It’s 2011 baby!





What does Cris have to say about “RELATIONSHIPS??”

@CrisCris_ENT People dont like getting into relationships where they cant readily have sex.. if they gotta drive more than 20 min for sex they dont wanna be bothered.

@CrisCris_ENT People’d rather get n2 relationships that are mediocre just so that they get the “full package” on a regular basis.. quantity vs quality?

@CrisCris_ENT It’s no wonder so many people are breaking up nowadays.. smh. One day yall will understand..

@CrisCris_ENT Until then I guess our world will be full of mediocre relationships thriving off sex and “in the moment” attention.. smh lol……. I guess.

@CrisCris_ENT #ATTENTION Male followers: What do you consider a solid relationship that you’d cut all else off for?

@CrisCris_ENT I’m tired of hearing “niggas aint sh*t”.. “f*ck him”.. etc. If yall knew what was to be expected maybe we wouldn’t have relationship issues.

@CrisCris_ENT And #ATTENTION females: What do you really want?? Be real about your sh*t.. niggas don’t like being confused lol

@CrisCris_ENT If you want exclusivity then speak the f*ck up and if he don’t then keep it pushin’.. stop settling and getting mad when it dont work out.

@CrisCris_ENT #GUYS.. If a girl tell you to be REAL w her.. Be REAL.. smh. If u ready to move on then move on.. DONT lead her on!

@CrisCris_ENT And #LADIES.. if u tell a dude to be real w u.. Be ready for the truth and sh*t the #truthhurts sometimes but I promise it wont kill ya lol


HAHAHAA.. There’s more to come… go and check it out for yourself >> @CrisCris_ENT << follow me! I follow back!!

Tonight on The Monique Show, Vivica A. Fox was a guest and spoke on the many blessings floating in her life right now as well as her recent former relationship with rapper, 50 Cent. As difficult as the break up was with all the rumors going around, Vivica Fox was most pleased and moved when 50 Cent was able to come back and apologize to her as a man. Lesson learned.